Knowing your worth is so important. I can’t stress that enough. But it isn’t an easy thing to do. A lot of times, we put so much of our self-worth in the hands of others- family, friends, co-workers, etc. If they value us, then we’re happy. If they don’t, it negatively hurts your self-esteem.
But why do we do that? Why do we allow others to determine what our worth is? It’s just another way to let someone else walk all over you. It’s inexcusable for anyone to treat you terribly, and it’s not okay to let your self-worth be dictated by others.
It’s understandable to want to hear the opinions from other people. Hell, there are times where it’s even necessary to do so. But you shouldn’t lower your worth for someone else. You need to know what you’re worth, and then stand by it. It sounds scary, but it’s an important thing to do!
At the end of the day, you need to stand up for yourself. Sometimes it’s hard when there are so many people out there with egos bigger than their physical size. There will be people older than you who will block your way to achieving your dreams. There are people who are scared - scared they’re going to lose their power to those that are more skilled or smarter than them. That’s right. When one’s ego is threatened, their self-defence mechanism will more often than not kick in. As a result, insults and other rude remarks can come flying your way.
I won’t lie- as someone who has been on the receiving end of such insults, it can really hurt to hear such horrible things. But you shouldn’t become disheartened by people who try to offend your self-worth. Why? Because they’re simply not worth your time. Never lower your self-worth for someone else, regardless of who they are. Walk away from anyone and everyone who under-values you. You’re worth more than that. Both your time and your energy are worth more than any of that.
So don’t forget- know your worth. If you don’t already, then you should learn what it is. Once you do, make it clear to others what you worth is. Will it turn some people off? Perhaps. But those who don’t mind or are happy for you are the people you should want to keep around in the first place anyways. You’ll certainly grow to appreciate it.
xo,
Elizabeth